Perfect Poise, Perfect Life
Bring your body into balance and revolutionise your life
By Noel Kingsley
Publisher Hodder Mobius
AVAILABLE HERE
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You're perfect as you are
When we meet someone, we'll introduce ourselves with our name. "HI, I'm Noel". But in reality, it's only a name, not who we are. Nor is my profession who I am either. It's only what I do.
Who we are is deeply intrinsic to our being and we are all completely unique. This is the wonderful thing about meeting new people that everyone is so different with their own particular attributes, skills, abilities and talents. Yet, in discussion with someone we can discover that our companion may be rather focused on how differently she or he would like to be, or how difficult things are, or how they wish they could do or 'be' something different.
Yet, if we were to take a few minutes and write down a list of all of their personal attributes, talents and skills, we are likely to come up with a wonderfully long list. I've seen people struggling to name three, but with some encouragement, we've eventually come up with over a hundred! 'Nice smile, generous, forgiving, great with numbers, great with kids, intuitive, nice legs, good at organising, quick reactions, green fingered with plants, gentle, strong, etc, etc. And then they may say, "But I'm hopelessly impatient." and we could turn that around and say......."so you like to get things done quickly. Great. So do I!" Or "I spend too much time day-dreaming." But dreams are what life is made of. Everyone should have a dream and something to look forward to. It depends on your perspective. We can all 'do ourselves down' at times, but from another's perspective, they may see us quite different and wonderful.
But all these things are not who we are. No matter what we may have done with our lives, let people down, done bad things, failed someone or ourselves in some way, these are only subjective judgements and not necessarily how some others would see us. But even so, it is not US who is the fault....it is only what we may have done.
It's my belief that if we go deep enough, right down to the core of our being, beyond and beneath all the attitudes, chips on shoulders and 'learnt' tendencies from our life's experiences, then we'll find we're the most loving, caring, kind, forgiving, generous, warm-hearted and beautiful person.....as much as anyone else. We may be concealing it with our learnt attitudes and behaviours, but it's there. It comes down to Love. And it's love that makes life. Love is healing and encourages growth. It is the essence of us and what we were full of as a baby and it's still there. We can still discover it if we look. And we can share it with others.
We are all perfect as we are. It may just be what we do that's imperfect. And we can change that if we choose.
