Perfect Poise, Perfect Life
Bring your body into balance and revolutionise your life
By Noel Kingsley
Publisher Hodder Mobius
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Sex appeal comes from within

Have you noticed how you can sometimes meet people who may not be described as traditionally beautiful, in fact they may positively be unattractive in certain ways, be it their features, figure, hair or clothing. But despite this they may also be enormously sexy or sensuous. They can have a wonderful sexual appeal because they are radiating something very special. They exude this quality from within.

Indeed someone like this can be far sexier than another who has the perfect figure, sculpted features and wearing stunning clothes. Because our subconscious picks up on everything about them and the latter person may be sending out a conflict of statements. She may not be really calm, centred and content within herself, and this is what we pick up. This conflict makes us uneasy.

Some aspects of ourselves are so much part of us that if we were aware of them, we may feel that there isn’t much that can be done to change. We’re talking about our physical demeanour, and not just the cosmetic treatments and considerations that we give to our outside. We're also talking about our attitude, how we feel about ourselves, our emotions and sense of self. It's what’s going on inside of us that can have an enormous effect.

There are certain qualities in people that we normally find very attractive and sexy. Personality of course is one. Reasonable fitness is another, but also if they appear upright, relaxed, cool and confident within themselves; if only we could have that relaxed, emotionally centred and calm, self assured quality too! If we could also move with nimbleness and fluidity, have openness across our chest, have clear skin, be relaxed in our facial muscles, smile, and look calm and happy and have a gorgeous voice. All of these qualities are the most natural in the world, yet to find someone displaying them all tends to be a rare experience. And I would also suggest that these are the qualities that more of us could have, but do not, only because we are preventing ourselves from having them. In other words, we are not loose because we are stiffening, we have dry skin partly because we don’t breathe efficiently, we frown and tighten our facial muscles and we may not drink enough water. We are stooped and pulling ourselves down, because we’ve lost our sense of balance and developed a whole load of habits to compensate. But these aspects also have much deeper influences. Our whole health and well being is undermined.

Our inner organs may also be under stress, partly by our slouch that compresses them, but also because of emotional reasons as well as dietary. Our system may be under strain, and this will affect our whole demeanour. We cannot be truly relaxed and calm when our system is under stress. I’m not talking about stress at work or any other external situation, although our ability to cope in these circumstances is also affected by how well co-ordinated and balanced we are. No, I’m referring to the general functioning of our whole ‘self’ that can be under significant strain, and this will be expressed through our energy and will affect how we interact with others. And although we may feign or pretend to be happy, calm and wonderful, something deeper is giving off other signals that conflict with our manner. So there is dissonance in our portrayal of ourselves, this is discomforting to those with whom we interact.

So how do we get this wonderful inner quality? We must attend to our diet, our water consumption, our general lifestyle. We should attend to our posture and ensure that we truly are in balance, well poised, breathing well, free in all our joints so that we can move easily. As we’ve said, our emotions are enormously affected by our physical condition and by improving our posture we will certainly change how we feel about ourselves and how we come over to others.

We can also have a positive attitude and just simply decide that we are just not going to care at all about what others think of us. We're just going to be ourselves, we're going to be positive, and raise our own emotions so that we are happy in ourselves all the time. Sod it. Sod the world. We can just be ourselves, do our thing, relax in the knowledge that there is absolutely nothing that we can do that will change how others feel about us. How can we? If we're richer, some won't like us for it, of we wear designer or more attractive clothes, some will be turned off by them, if we're poorer others won't like it. We can only affect how WE feel about ourselves. We are the only person that we can have an effect over. So let's make ourselves happy, content. Let's please ourselves and not care what others think. And then when we're truly into being ourselves without care or concern, uninhibited, carefree, self assured, dedicated to what interests us, busy getting on with what we're passionate about and not trying to please anyone, .....then, and only then will we be giving off signals we've been talking about.

There is a strange irony, that if we stop caring about what other people think about us and just get on with being ourselves and making ourselves happy, then we are far more likely to be exuding a relaxed, comfortable, self assured and sensuous quality and people will be falling over us. It seems 'selfish' to be so concerned about making ourselves happy, but this is what people like! When was the last time you fancied someone who didn't like themselves or wasn't happy? We walk the other way.

I feel that one of the most important things to remember is that we are all unique. You are unique. There is no-one in the entire world that has your combination of attributes, skills, personality, quirky idiosyncrasies, sense of humour, sound of voice, shape and figure, height and width, smile, softness, strength, passion, loves, hates, ambition, methodical or erratic, calculating or abandoned, challenged or successful, eloquent or laconic, speedy or leisurely way of life! No-one. Just you. And we are all different. And this all is to our benefit. All of it. Deep down we are all the most wonderful, caring, loving person. If you feel you're not, you haven't gone deep enough. It's what makes health. Love heals and brings life.

We all have it all already. You and I and every one has this wonderful, attractive personality and sensuous presence,.....if we could just let it out. And we can't let it out by trying to be anyone other than who we truly are. You are beautiful. So just be yourself and enjoy the attention you get. Love it.
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Posted by Noël on June 14, 2006 8:53 AM | Permalink