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Red card? Rooney can let it go

Since Wayne Rooney was red carded and sent off during the England v Portugal match in the World Cup, there has been a lot of press regarding the incident, from many different views. It is believed that he was fouled just before his foot stamped on Ricardo Carvalho and there should have been a free kick. It is also thought the red card was unfair, that Cristiano Ronaldo played a part in getting him sent off. Some press are giving several pages to Rooney's anger towards his fellow Manchester United team mate, Ronaldo and how he would like to 'split him in two'. How he has been urged to 'bury the hatchet' but the Sun reports, the only place he'll do that is 'in Ronaldo'. And so it goes on.

Today, it is reported in the BBC News that Rooney holds no animosity towards Ronaldo who said, "He [Rooney] wished me the best of luck in the World Cup. He told me we had a great team and that if we continued to play like this, we would go far.

"At the end we texted each other and between us every-thing's been cleared," he said. "He wasn't angry with me and, moreover, he told me to completely ignore what the English press has said, that all they wanted was to create confusion, but we are already used to that." Ronaldo insisted he was not to blame for Rooney's dismissal, despite appearing to wink at the Portuguese bench once the red card had been shown.

However, the situation happened, it is unfortunate, and maybe England should still be in the tournament and even preparing to play the Semi-final. However, this is not the case, and what actually happened, is now history and consigned and recorded as memories.

Rooney has been reported in different media with conflicting emotions. Naturally he will be bitterly disappointed in being sent off and for England dropping out.

The point I want to make, is that memories of what happened are there, registered in his conscious mind and also his subconscious. but this memory is an objective one. What Rooney does with that memory is his choice. He may feel resentment, bitterness, anger and frustration, or he can actually choose to let it go and move on. He can choose to be forgiving, to himself for his actions, his stamping on Ricardo Carvalho and to let go of any resentment towards Ronaldo. He can choose either the lower ground, or the higher. It's common to consider emotions as something that are beyond our control, but this is far from the case. Our reactions to situations are governed to a high degree by our past experiences, hurts, disappointments, upbringing etc. But we can also override these initial feelings and choose something different. It's how we think of it that's the important. It's what we focus on. Do we focus on hurt, pride and resentment, or focus on letting go and moving on. Where you look is where you go. You may have heard me say this on a number occasions.

Terry Tillman, Resource Consultant of 227 Company describes this type of situation well . "The memory as recorded doesn’t affect everything we think, feel say or do. It’s an objective record. What we decide about the experience, how we interpret the experience, the feelings we overlay on the experience is what has an effect. We can change those decisions, interpretations, feelings, in many ways and methods and techniques. One way to change the effect of the decision is to change the present focus. This is the most efficacious way I’ve found to make that change. You create your reality, and experience, by where you place your focus. So, it makes sense to me to focus on what I want more of, rather than the “problem” or “wrong” or upset or disturbance or negative past history. "

Let's hope Rooney can select the focus that will be most helpful, so he and the team can move on.

Didn't England play well with only ten men, despite the penalties? I was really impressed. It was great stuff.

Have a good day!
:-)
Wayne Rooney in action

Posted by Noël on July 4, 2006 7:23 AM | Permalink