Perfect Poise, Perfect Life
Bring your body into balance and revolutionise your life
By Noel Kingsley
Publisher Hodder Mobius
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....on the Bright Side of Life
In today’s modern society we calculate and rationalise so readily that it’s easy to see how our thinking becomes the dominant factor and our heart and intuitive processes get far less of a look in. However our whole mind and body works as an integrated mechanism and our senses and imagination should not be excluded as they are products of our whole.
If we mentally ignore our inner needs, then we have dissonance and a situation where we’re working against ourselves. The push and pull effect of conflicting emotions and thoughts, if I may separate them for a moment, will cancel each other out and we will have stagnation and no movement. When opposite forces are put against one another they negate each other; acid and alkali neutralise, black and white make grey, heat and cold produce tepid, and impulsion and friction make for slow movement. I’m not saying the brain and heart are opposites, but if we are thinking one thing and emotionally wishing for another, the conflict diminishes the potential combined strength and synergy of when they are working together in the same direction.
In my book ‘Perfect Poise, Perfect Life’ I wrote about negative voices and how they can seriously hold us back and stop us from achieving what we desire. They seem to appear when we’ve got it in mind to do something quite different and extraordinary, something that would be challenging, exciting or even just a treat. Just when we have some inspiration, this little voice pipes up from deep inside and says ‘You can’t do that!’ The rational, judgmental and critical side of our brain jumps in and puts a dampener on our great ideas! It’s not fair! Our mind can wander and come up with all sorts of amazing ideas, then just when we think that would be fantastic, the negative voice tells us like a reprimanding governess that we cannot or should not do it for one reason or another.
We may feel overwhelmed with the idea that we are not worthy of our ideal, we don’t deserve this, or that we will never find the right partner, or we never have been successful, and so we never will be. We may hear negative voices so strongly and overbearing that they smother any enthusiasm and courage we may have. They block us from moving forwards so we need to deal with them.
Our negative voices have a foundation in all of our life’s experiences and are based on fear. But because we may have had difficulties or we believed that we’ve failed at something in the past is no reason why it may happen again. When you hear your negative voice criticising, complaining, or cajoling you, let it be heard. When you have given it an ear, you can say to yourself that it’s fine to feel this way, but you are going to choose to do what you really want. You can choose to do things differently. You are moving on. To help you with these issues, you may like to seek practical help from one of the many organisations that offer counselling and personal development courses such as Insight Seminars, The Essence Foundation or Practical Miracles. You will find their details at the back of this book.
Just remember where these voices come from and also that your great ideas are more likely to be based on what is truly right for you. Your inspiring idea may take you outside of your comfort zone, but this doesn’t mean that it’s wrong. If it’s truly for you, then you may find that the most difficult things seem to flow towards you with ease.
If we can learn to acknowledge the voice so that it is heard, but then choose to take a different path rather than let it govern us, we will be so much better off. While we may not have done something before, we could say to ourselves ‘This may be new for me, and there’s no proof that I can’t do it, and I am worthy of it, so I shall give it a go!’
Having a positive attitude is fundamentally important if we are to achieve our dreams and full potential. If you think negative, you will get it. If your positive thinking aligns with your Purpose then you will help and support all of your faculties to achieve it by bringing all of your strengths in a co-ordinated manner to bear on the project.
Why not go through your day looking for what makes you feel good and happy? Look for what you want to see. See the good and beauty in everything. The more you develop this habit the more you will attract into your life what you want, because like attracts like. If you did this for every day of your life, will you have any regrets when you’re elderly, or are you more likely to say that you’ve had a great life? We could easily be self-judgemental and say that we’re not worthy of such good things and by repeating this ‘thinking’ of course we are attracting into our lives what we actually don’t want, albeit that they fit with our self perception. We can change that habit now if we choose. Look for what you want to see, think positive and you are more likely to get more of what you really wish for.
Exercise – Focus on the positive
Choose today, to go through the whole of your day thinking positively about everything that you’re doing and everything and everyone around you. Avoid thinking any negative thoughts at all.
If you catch yourself thinking negatively - that frequently happens if we’re prone to this, quietly take note that you have, and choose to think differently. So if you find something isn’t working out the way you’d like, maybe you need to take note of the feedback and adjust your approach, or do it later. Visualise it working out. See it the way you would like it. Be flexible to go with the flow and keep your mind positive and believe that all will work out positively in the end. We may take a meandering course to get there, but it will be fine.
Avoid being critical of yourself or others.
Enjoy being in this moment.
If it’s your tendency to think negatively you may only manage this for ten minutes or so. Acknowledge your achievement no matter how short a time it has been; congratulate yourself and try again.
Have a good day!
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