Perfect Poise, Perfect Life
Bring your body into balance and revolutionise your life
By Noel Kingsley
Publisher Hodder Mobius
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Seeing things differently

Isn't it just lovely when people are kind, when they have consideration towards you and you know it's coming from their heart? It makes such a difference to the day, and I'm so grateful when someone is kind enough to give me this experience. So the awareness comes to mind, that although other people can affect me in such pleasant ways and they enhance my experience in life, I am part of their environment too. So.....

Today I choose to act with kindness and be in my heart. What we give out is what we get back.
If we are critical of others and have attacking thoughts, not only do they go out to the person but they are likely to be returned. Even being judgemental is a form of criticism and negativity. The negative emotion that we are creating towards someone else also attacks us, so we too suffer in health and well being. I recall an elderly lady of 102 years old who came to me for Alexander Technique sessions who told me in response to being asked her why she had lived so long, said that it was because she never got angry or held a grudge. She felt that everyone who gets angry is making themselves sick.

By acting with kindness we are living in our heart. Of two emotions, love and fear, it is love that comes from the heart and is real. It is love that attracts health, well being and growth that we can see in nature around us. Fear, which is the antithesis of love is something that we create for ourselves. Fear doesn’t exist in any form other than as an emotion that we create in response to stimuli outside of us. If we replace fear with love then we are healing ourselves and we will cope with the situation.

If I am required to give a presentation to a group of people, it’s possible that I could have some fear or nervousness about being the focus of attention or how my talk will be received. The fear would be inside of me, not outside. The event at which I would be presenting does not have any fear in it, but I could feel fear for myself. However, if I make the conscious choice to replace this fear with a real desire to go out there and connect with all these lovely people and to enjoy presenting to them and to like them, then I am no longer fearful. Fear has been replaced by love and I will enjoy myself more, my energy will be channelled positively rather than negatively through fear, I shall be uplifted with my own enthusiasm and I shall engage with them from the heart and they will hear a more enjoyable talk. In reality, nothing has changed about the event or my presentation, but there has been a change in the way that I view the situation, and it is this that makes the difference. Although I may have felt my fear in my gut and throughout my body, the experience is the product of my imagination, and by choosing to see things differently, from the viewpoint of love, I have banished fear.

You may like to try this for yourself. Next time you don’t want to do something, for whatever reason, be it fear or boredom, decide to see the task differently and enjoy doing it. Choose to act from a position of love, kindness and contentedness. Give out what you would like to receive and it will be reflected back to you. If you are going for an interview, really look forward to the opportunity of expressing yourself. If you’ve got a lot of house cleaning, take pleasure in making your home beautiful. If someone in your office has done something to annoy you, see them differently, give them some affection, some gift of kindness....and even if they do not change, you will have changed how you perceive them; you'll see them as part of a bigger picture and see them differently. If you decide to enjoy what you're doing no matter what it is and if you give out kindness and love, it will be returned.

Today I shall act with kindness and be in my heart......and I think I shall do so tomorrow too....

Have a great weekend. :-)

Posted by Noël on May 18, 2007 9:34 AM | Permalink